It’s well known that women sometimes act a bit different when they’re pregnant. But, can you blame them? Their entire bodies are swollen, they’re exhausted, and their hormones are completely out of whack. Many times, women can’t truly control their emotions because they’re on a level 15 out of 10 during those 9 months. However, not all men can handle the changes.
One Reddit user posted into the thread “Am I The Asshole” asking:
WIBTA if I ask my pregnant wife to move out because she and her best friend decided to “test” my loyalty?
As the story goes, his wife truly did use a bit of sneaky and manipulative work to try and test her hubby’s loyalty. He writes:
My wife is pregnant with our daughter. Initially we were really happy and excited about it. But then, she starts acting like a nut job. She gets angry and irritated for small things, insults me when she doesn’t like the food I make, starts acting insecure and accuses me of losing attraction for her.
For example, she wanted to eat chicken sandwiches for dinner last week. Well, I made chicken sandwiches. So she eats all the sandwiches, leaves me nothing and told me that they tasted like shit. I wasn’t pissed because she left me nothing. But if she didn’t like them, why did she have to eat everything? When I asked her this she told me that she was hungry. Ok fine. She does this every time. Eats everything I make and calls it shit. I don’t argue with her because I work for more than 80 hours a week and I really want to have some peace when I’m home.
So, yesterday, a random girl starts at flirting with me after the gym and asked me if I wanted to meet up with her for some drinks. I rejected her and told her that I was married. And when I got home, my wife started to hug me and apologise. When I asked her what happened, she told me that her best friend suggested a test for my loyalty. So they asked a mutual friend to flirt with me and asked me out. And I passed. Yay!!. I’m really pissed. I’m done with her antics. WIBTA if I ask her to move out?
People online were pretty divided. Some people thought that this husband was not being considerate and empathetic that his wife is hormonal and cannot control it.
One person suggested couples therapy first:
Yikes. Might I suggest some couples therapy first? What she did was clearly an A move, though I don’t think you’d be in the right to have her move out while pregnant. –Lizlizlizzyliz
Another said not to be immature and jump the gun.
Try being an adult and discussing problems first. –bobshallprevail
Others say it was way too harsh.
You have a reason to be upset, but I think kicking her out is a little harsh. I liked a comment above mentioning couples counseling. –Datalust5
Others thought that he was 100% in the right.
One person said what if the roles were reversed.
NTA. this sub infuriates me sometimes. no not ESH. not by a fucking longshot and im curious if anyone would be justifying this if the genders were reversed. you are absolutely NTA and being pregnant doesn’t give you a blank check to turn into a fucking psycopath. Your wife shouldn’t be getting a pass on this. At the very minimum you need to separate and go into counseling. Do you really want to be dodging thirst traps and mind games for the rest of your life? –lapussymonster
Another said it was out of line and it’s abusive.
This whole “you can’t ask your pregnant wife to move out!” posturing is BS. Being pregnant doesn’t give you license to abuse and gaslight people. Asking her to leave I think should be the bare minimum here. –RidleyAteKirby
And, someone said that this could be a bigger issue than just pregnancy hormones.
Please do not listen to anyone who justifies her behavior with pregnancy hormones. She is either mentally ill or abusive. –curacaublue
In all honesty, I have to agree that asking her to move out right away is a bit much. In fact, if you’re having a child together, it would be wise to try and work it out beforehand—rather than throw her out and make matters worse before your newborn child comes into the world.