When you’re going through a hard time, the first thing you want to do is talk to people you’re close with. Asking your friends and family for advice and guidance is usually your go-to method of therapy and venting. However, not everyone is so great at emotionally supporting individuals. In fact, many people who think they’re being supportive are actually just perpetuating “toxic positivity.”
Psychotherapist Whitney Hawkins Goodman, LMFT, owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, always shares advice and guidance on her Instagram account, @sitwithwhit. Recently, she shared a chart on the difference between giving someone “validation and hope” versus “toxic positivity.” So far, the post has gone viral online because many people didn’t realize they are victims to both giving and receiving toxic positivity.
People online were extremely grateful for the post online and showcasing how the way in which you word advice is important. Sometimes, you don’t mean to, but you are perpetuating the notion of toxic positivity that does not help an individual with what they are going through.