Some guys don’t take hints very well. When we say no, they don’t like taking rejection. Some guys think coming on too strong is sweet or romantic, but most women just find it annoying and creepy. Sometimes, it’s better to listen to the major hints we drop like ignoring texts or DM’s, instead of sliding in two more times. Women online revealed all the “romantic” gestures guys think they do that they actually find super creepy and to be huge turn-offs, and maybe guys reading this will learn a thing or two.
Going through a girls entire FB or instagram and liking all of her pictures when she adds you. Super creepy.
I had a guy that went through and found every picture of me in a bathing suit and liked those. I think the most recent was five years old, and none were from them same album. I blocked him.
Constantly bitching on the internets how you are forever alone.
Trying to talk to a woman from a car in an urban/dark/dimly lit area.
Be aware of surroundings before complimenting/flirting/asking for her number. We generally are aware of our surroundings, as for some of us, safety is in the forefront of our minds.
Covertly following me and at some point revealing that you have. I had one guy do that who expected praise over it, over how smart he was. It’s one of the dumbest moves I’ve ever even heard of.
Being way too eager, especially early on.
Once met a guy at a party, the next day I heard from several of my friends that he messaged them on Facebook to get personal information about me from them (including where I live, work etc.).
I also once had a guy from my university (I met him in one of my classes but we never really talked) send me a romance poem. Not creepy but definitely weird.
unsolicited shoulder rubs, and this 😉 emoji, just dont
Refusing to give up after we’ve already said we’re not interested.
Telling them they should smile more
When you are kissing whatever and they emit a high pitched, breathy whimper. I swear guys think this is sexy or cute but it’s creepy af.
Foreplay that’s too feathery-stroky. Just no.
Just don’t do anything that you think of as romantic unless you know she is also interested in you or you’re going on a date.
Over the top marriage proposals. The more intimate the better.
Balloons, it’s “Hey I love you, take a sack of my breath”
Unsolicited back rubs.
I’m going to say this depends a bit on the person and what you’re looking for in a relationship. Personally, I’ve never wanted something casual (not that I fault those who do) and I am a clingy person in general. I’ve emotional baggage I could go into, but whatever, it’s just who I am. I get that it’s not for everybody, but I would want someone who messages me often every day, even if it’s just “look at this silly cat lov u” or whatever.
There is however a difference between clingy and desperate, I think. The difference is expecting an immediate response––I like it when someone texts me a bunch and I do the same, but if I text something and an hour or two goes by, I won’t feel slighted or anything (although depending, I might feel a little worried). I’d want the same to be true for my partner.
Being overly attentive. Attention is nice, but there’s a line. When we’ve first started dating, texting me every few hours comes across as clingy and desperate.
Theres been several times I’ve been talking to boyfriends/dates about things I’ve experienced ( stalking, attempted kidnapping, harrassment ect) in a relevant discusion, not even me bringing it up and the guys I’ve been with always say something along the line of, “thats bad, I’d never do something like that”. I know that the guy wants to reassure me and let me know that he’s not a threat, but instead it distmisses the issue and makes it seem like a freak one off, rather than a large part of daily lifed, it sounds like he’s saying he would never do it, and neither would men he knows so I must just be being dramatic. This completely invalidates me, These were real scary events that should not be taboo to talk about, but whenever a man says that to me I feel as though I’m lying or being overly dramatic. The experience is related back to the man so he can be patted on the back for not assulting women and means I feel scared to talk about my experiances for fear I may be judged or not believed.
Being possessive. This is often glorified in romance novels but it’s super creepy irl.
I once went out with friends and one of them brought her boyfriend along because he didn’t want her to go out alone. We went to a bar and weren’t even there for five minutes before he started to flip shit. According to him the bartender was ogling his girlfriend and we had to leave or he would “teach him a lesson”.
It’s worse they don’t like every single photo but one day you get a random notification saying they’ve liked a photo from back in 2011 or something. Suddenly you’re aware they’ve been looking back through all those stupid pics you uploaded when you were younger.
Tell us that they think about us when they wank.
“Where’s my hug?”